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Stay up-to-date with personal protection expert Erin Cash.Erin Cashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00172996965677946478noreply@blogger.comBlogger94125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-478792890777833601.post-53879557987897627322020-02-20T17:21:00.000-08:002020-02-27T17:20:11.021-08:00Hecate is not just a Goddess - she is TITAN! She can teach us how to save ourselves. #BAMCan you come with me as I crunch through the fodder of a forest floor, smell the earthy scents of a new-born babies head as tiny fingers curl around mine. Can you feel the dawn suck in her breath just before her arms and hair permeate the horizon, or the smudging of the senses as dusk collects you in and pulls away, releasing you gently into the portal of night. As night descends we allow it to settle as a magical blanket cast spells to the stars and gives way to dreams of rest.<br />
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Time stands still in our moments of awareness - reminding us that there is no good or bad in the light versus dark. There just is - the present moment. Free of judgement but rich in appreciation. Rich in choice.<br />
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Tell that a woman who wakes up with bloody sheets feeling like her uterus has collapsed, had a seizure, and is know protruding though her vagina. #menstruationtruthbomb<br />
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Goodbye gentleman and welcome ladies and my remaining masculine divines to another <a href="https://emgoddess.com.au/">Emgoddess phase</a>, and this one is one my favourites... in all of her bloody, human, sticky, icky, life giving gorgeousness as the Goddess of crossroads - Hecate - walks beside us in our week of menstruation. <br />
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Menopausal? Stop right there Crone - no seriously, that was not an insult. Hecate is the Goddess of birth, death and renewal: the maid, the mother and the crone. She is one, both, or all of you. And there is nothing more powerful than the Crone as she looks into the past and conjures her future - and the future of the world. The Crone delivers the babe, teaches the mother and heals the heavens. Not much but #someonehastodoit.<br />
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Black tutu *check<br />
MF quartz crystal ring *check<br />
Full moon *check<br />
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One of my fav men in the world to demonstrate <a href="http://www.ravesselfdefence.com/">RAVESSelfDefence</a> on *check<br />
Scratching out the eyes of the patriarchy *check</td></tr>
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Hecate comes in last of the four Goddesses phases to assist us in charting our cycles and getting the most of our cyclical nature at work, school, home, in relationships and most definitely when we exercise. And when I say last, I mean I have left the best for last. For Hecate has dwelt in the underworld and after the war of Titans v Gods she was the only Titan allowed to retain power in Olympus and on Earth while her co-workers were bound for eternity to lift rock, have poison eternally dripped on their eyes or be ripped apart and thrown to the four corners of Hades! She is that swelling primal force that accumulates and bursts forth like a rolling electrical storm to manifest desires and raize ill serving BS to the ground. As she lays waste to the old she unleashes quantum fertiliser to birth new life. In a Patriarchal realm she is not to be trusted, because she embodies the potential of a global mass awakening in the <a href="https://upliftconnect.com/living-in-the-kali-yuga/">Kali Yuga</a>, or great earth ascension, as we enter the Golden Age - the age of Aquarius. This is the knowledge that those that live in service-to-self, or greed and power, will be thrown into a lower dimension to work that shiz out in an endless teaching cycle of karma. The ascended will build a new earth - heaven on earth. And this could be a little scary for the self serving peeps currently in power feasting on the fear and hatred of its dominion, which segways to my next insight.<br />
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You see, since <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/post-politics/wp/2015/08/07/trump-says-foxs-megyn-kelly-had-blood-coming-out-of-her-wherever/">Trump came out with that 'fantastical' comment to CNN </a>about the famously conservative Fox female reporter Megyn Kelly "bleeding from her eyes, bleeding from, whatever"... I had my own personal awakening on the way that menstruating women have been labelled as 'emotional, over reactive, irrational [fill in your own blank]'.... but most of all, <i>COULD NOT BE TRUSTED. </i><br />
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Tweets and memes are just the tip of the modern day iceberg for menstration-shaming (I can't trim that down to "mens-shaming" cause #irony #oppositeday). Husbands, dads and brothers throw their hands in the air and recoil with shrieks of "I knew it" when told the lady of the house has been 'inflicted' with 'that time of the month.' Even the fact I am using so many 'inverted comma's' gives you an idea of the zeitgeist that this bodily function has on our psych. ""''!`\0/!""'<br />
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Is this shaming just a last resort to keep us small, and hasten the oncoming Golden Age? The age of love, inclusiveness and instant, gorgeous, life affirming manifestation and abundance?<br />
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In Olympian Gods v Titans Hecate was the only Titan Zeus allowed to keep her power and share it with us mere mortals to give us <u>anything we wanted</u>. All hail Hecate! #shethekingringadingding If we keep being told how disgusting we are, well hey, we might just start to believe it. And in the believing comes a forgetting of the power of Hecate, and a relinquishing of her divine and mighty power. The power to ask for and create whatever we want!<br />
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There is absolutely no surprise that women free of chemical birth control cycle their period to the new moon and the full moon. I do. So do my super cool friends. My first period after the birth of every one of my children cycled to the full moon. And with loads of support from Chinese medicine, nutrition and fitness I have a pain free relatively light cycle that is completely on my terms. Cause - that is the way it should cause #Iamthebossofmybody. My period is my detox and my affirmation to fertility and health by surrendering to the divine will of nature. To not bleed when fertile is like <b><i>not</i></b> treating an infection. It goes against the very laws of nature and stems or stays the healing cycles of our innate healing abilities. I have also known, deep inside the recesses of my womb, something that no one woman for generations has dared to say out loud for fear of being burnt at the stake - that during this time you harbour great power. You are charged with the power to create and destroy. You are the witch in the woods and the crone by the fire.<br />
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<a href="https://ew.com/tv/2020/01/26/chilling-adventures-of-sabrina-part-3-spoilers-zelda-kiss-love-triangle/"><i>Sabrina</i> on Netflix</a> lovers would be delighted in the Season 4 final episode finale when [spoiler alert retro horrorr lovers! go to the next paragraph if you haven't caught up] the crippled Coven of the Night breaks free from the patriarchal hoof-hold of Satan and regenerates with the all powerful magic of Hecate! BaBaBaBaaaaaaahhhhhhhh! Sound the celestial orchestra. <br />
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So can I offer you this? When you have your period you are so magical, so powerful that you manifest instantly. Whether this be conscious or unconscious manifestation. If you are thinking/ feeling shame you manifest more of the same. But can you imagine, just for one moment, if we cast aside the shame and started casting spells. Can you imagine? Did you just feel that? Smell that? Yes... you may have smelt fear. But it wasn't yours. It was the smell of the lower energies shitting themselves because you just remembered the truth. You are so powerful you can build a new world. Go to it Goddess. No.... wait. Go do it Titan.<br />
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Hi, I am Erin. I own the boxing MMA shed <a href="http://www.sweatdepot.com.au/">Sweat Depot</a> that is best know for loud and sweaty MMA HIIT and HIRT classes. <br />
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I also teach <a href="http://www.ravesselfdefence.com/">RAVES self defence</a> to schools, workplaces and families. Get excited! I am currently developing an online fitness course with <a href="https://emgoddess.com.au/">Emgoddess</a> to compliment the four phases of your feminine cycle : Daphne, Demeter, Persephone and Hecate. Persephone was my FAV cause I am a scorpio with a dark, cold conjurers imagination that also enjoys consensual hugs, fluffy, sparkly things and talking about psychopaths, aliens and bodily functions over the dinner table. As I get older I have grabbed Hecate and begged her to embody me with her strength and wisdom and all knowing power. She can help us change the world, and I am up for that! <br />
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Now that you know (probs a little too much) about me <a href="https://emgoddess.com.au/join-the-emgoddess-community/">join the Emgoddess community</a> to get onboard with your feminine fitness journey in the presence of Goddesses and Naiads no less!<br />
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Remain up-to-date on the latest fitness programs and nutrition by subscribing to this blog. And remember to LIKE us on facebook for LIVE updates and community feedback https://www.facebook.com/SweatDepot.</div>Erin Cashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00172996965677946478noreply@blogger.com312/254 S Pine Rd, Enoggera QLD 4051, Australia-27.4179236 152.9941526-55.4025451 111.68555860000001 0.56669789999999765 -165.69725340000002tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-478792890777833601.post-47460364904034316042020-02-16T17:52:00.002-08:002020-02-19T18:03:40.326-08:00So I'm hanging out with the #metoo woodland lymph Daphne and we are getting our guts out - literally<h3>
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And, goodbye gentlemen (for this who stay I promise it will be worth your while).<br />
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So the Ancient Greek woodland nymph Daphne and I have been swapping notes and she wanted me to tell you a story about her, and me, and well, all of you. Because this fun loving huntress is an archetype that makes up all women and if you haven't sipped a pink gin cocktail and dashed naked through a forest chasing Bambi with her you then you have seriously missed out. <br />
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Daphne is the poster girl for the #metoo movement. You see, she was being stalked by the pesky sexual predator Apollo so in desperation she cried out to her river God Dad to help. In what I can only describe was a panicked parent response he turned her into a.... wait for it..... laurel tree. But Daphne was down with that - cause as Apollo tried pashing her she just shoved a big mouth full of hardened bark into his desperate mouth. #Bam #Bark #Boom<br />
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She was the sista that pegged the term 'virgin' in it's authentic sense. Not the atrociously mis-translated 'untouched hymen-myth' drivel, but the more accurate Ancient Greek translation 'I do not need a man because I choose to be independent' sense. This babe is the reason why the laurel wreath got chucked on a victorious Olympian's head, so loved is she... even if her defensive technique against unwanted masculine advances was to become a tree #haventweall. <br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="font-size: 12.800000190734863px;">So when I am hanging out with Daphne I like to wear flower earrings and a big pink skirt but I keep my footwear practical albeit sparkly in case of imminent butting kicking.</td></tr>
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I haven't turned into a tree per say, but I resonate with Daphne's will to express herself without needing to gratify some dude. I remember being a 22 year old girl out on a skating date with my new boyfriend. I was newly inducted Police woman and you would think I was all baseball caps and jeans, but nah, I wore skirts and flowers in my hair - everywhere. Even on said skate date.<br />
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My boyfriend said "You don't have to wear flowers in your hair all the time. You can save them for when we get married."</blockquote>
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In my head I was like "ohhhhh, he wants to marry me.... but oh, only if I stop wearing flowers in my hair."</blockquote>
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1. Why you wanna go get your arse married anyway?<br />
2. Why dis fool think you wanna marry him?<br />
3. Why <i>he</i> be telling <i>me</i> when I can wear flowers in my hair?<br />
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And more importantly: girlfriend, why this mo-fo memory be etched into your psyche for 3 decades? Shheeetttt.<br />
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During the 4 phases of the Emgoddess feminine cycle you get a laurel wreath for guessing my 'flowers in my hair and frills everywhere' phase to the Daphne phase.<br />
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During Daphne I like get my guts out because I feel less bloated. The first phase following the detox and release of menstruation during Hecate this is the optimum estro time for using those carbs efficiently and doing some super sweaty high intensity training to cash in on your upward energy swing.<br />
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I am more confident to try a new exercise in front of the class, and I don't really worry too much about what anybody thinks, at least I be moving dis ass.<br />
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For my Percy Jackson fans Daphne may also remind you of the hunting Goddess Artemis. All fiery with her edgy bow and arrow and like 'boys, yuk - I'll shoot you, I'm hanging out with my girl gang."<br />
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Your Daphne phase is the perfect time for you to hits some bags and use your big voice to question some fey farce that ain't sittin right on your nymph spectrum.... Just like the #metoo Daphne who's God Dad turned her into a tree to escape the advances of the #notallmen God Apollo. This is <i>your</i> time to set some hard and fast boundaries and shirk from unwanted gingivitis kisses by pushing out those branches and not apologising for this thick, resilient skin that you have so lovingly nurtured.<br />
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<span style="background-color: #ead1dc;">This is not a reflection on the beautiful little schools that my kids attend. Or for my baking, crafting, loving Goddesses that come alive when they create and share. This is for my mums that I counsel because they are at their wits end. Exhausted. Defeated. This is for the inequality that I see perpetrated in everyday life. The message that a Mother's time is less valuable, more expendable. </span></blockquote>
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<span style="background-color: #ead1dc;">With Mothers Day approaching, and every day, we could - we should - do things differently.</span></blockquote>
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When our schools ask our mothers to bake, what message are we sending to our children?<br />
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The school is the formative place of our child's social conditioning, right? But one of the first thing that is asked of mothers as they enter the school community is that they:<br />
1. Volunteer for tuckshop<br />
2. Bake for tuckshop<br />
3. Bake for fundraising<br />
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The message is.... yeh, we are all equal, and a community, but your mother is a lesser person if she does not bake. Her time is less valuable then Daddy's. And even if the written request is gender neutral, we know the reality don't we? Mums do the baking and the tuck-shopping. Mums get the beak-slap for children lunch box habits. Mums get judged.<br />
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The underlying assumption is that good mothers bake. And create. And you know what, if she has to take serapax to deal with the pressures of work and baking and volunteering and homework.... whatever. She has a responsibility to keep up appearances. For her community. For her children.<br />
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And it is so very relevant as we about to approach Mother's Day. <br />
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Ironically mothers are often conjouled and bullied into catering for the very day that is supposed to celebrate the often over-worked and over-whelmed woman of the house that is expected to have a full time job but act like a full time mother. And I find it is not the men doing this coercing. Cue the women in the wings with the subtle act of high street bullying learned in the hallowed grounds of the very institution sending out the instrument of coercion. The school newsletter. Men are conditioned to watch and condone, and throw in a feeble "I don't know why we can't just buy a pack of 12 cupcakes from Woolies," only to be countered with the acidic glare of Medusa incarnate.<br />
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I can't <b>buy</b> the cakes, I will be <b>judged</b>.<br />
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It was addressed in the 60's when public school systems looked at the need to have women 'bake' to fundraise, but hey. It's 2019 and it appears we have regressed back to the 1950's. Hooray for us.<br />
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One would think that with the rise of social media, instant messaging, online shopping and networking this archaic division of power would be long dissolved into the archives a of a patriotic time that our children now learn about in a wiki link. Additionally, with the advent of boutique based businesses, online catering and food vans that are salivating to be involved in school functions - and in turn provide revenue to the school - that there would be no need to put out a call for the 'little lady of the house' to bake for for the 'sake' of [insert pressing school resource need here]. If I ran my businesses like schools run fundraisers I would have been bankrupt 12 years ago.<br />
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I know men bake. Some men. And I also know that these men get sniggered at by the less evolved knuckle draggers amongst us. If I see it I call it out. And equally, our male bakers shouldn't have a parade from the female cheerleaders every time they get out a kitchen-maid. Unless they are really good at carrot cake - then Hunger Games salute to you dude.<br />
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The pressure to bake (and craft create) is primarily determined by what genitals you were born with. It is irrelevant that I have worked in a male dominated profession since I was 20. The Police is one of the most modern professions of our time. I now teach in the oldest profession (no, not prostitution, I just saw a glimpse into your Freudian mind). The profession of teaching self defence and mortal combat. The bare knuckle kind. Not the kind that uses technology to increase the perceived or real extension of my penis ie: guns, knives etc. It does not matter that I have three businesses and two companies, five websites, write policy and workplace training modules and sit on steering committees and educational reform groups. Still, <i>still</i>, I am expected to bake. It does not matter that it has been proven time and time again that sugar is sending our kids bat-shit-crazy and historically endemically fat. It doesn't matter that I don't personally eat baked goods (ok, I do occasionally. But, I digress). <br />
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I. Am. Judged. Every. Day. Because I don't fit the version of what a mother should be. And this is the lesson that we are teaching our children. We drum into them 'just say no to bullying' and 'respect each other', 'be tolerant' but what they see is the coercion of their already struggling mothers to fit the mould that no unmedicated human being can possibly fit.<br />
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<span style="background-color: orange;">Woman are judged... every day, in a way that men are not.</span></blockquote>
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We have been conditioned to fail.<br />
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This is societies way of keeping women small and feeling unworthy. How on earth can they see the patriarchy for what it is, if women are up to their arms in gluten free flour, self doubt, judgement (of themselves and other women) and lacking the very basic ability to know what makes them happy. As long as your kids are happy right? No. I call bullshit. If you are unhappy then you are teaching your children a very specific skill set.<br />
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You are teaching them to be so busy that they cannot question the very system that keeps them small and feeling lesser. And this is the very definition of oppression.<br />
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Woman are judged so hard that even though I have said women are the worst at this (mis)placed judgement toward other women that I will receive loads of trolly male comments blurting, "but what about men?" I must add however, in criminal psychology one of the first profiles I was introduced to was the white middle aged woman who would also defend and cover for their son or husband's dysfunctional behaviour. For the sake of artistic creativity I call this profile 'the handmaiden' and I also see them featuring heavily in the trolling game of 'what-aboutery'. "What-about my son, brother, husband... 'such good men.'"<br />
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Yeh. But, what about? The 'what-abouters' just keep distracting from the issue of inequality and gender expectation. It's a big-baby cry for '"Hey, enough about you. What about me? Whhahhhhhh. Talk about meeeeeeeeeee!!!!" If you are asking 'what about?' change the question to "What do I condone?"<br />
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What. Do. <b><i>I</i></b>. Condone?<br />
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Me. I am part of the judgement, and the automated instinctual reflex to be part of the pack and keep churning out our matrix cookies to keep our children held firm in the sugar industrial complex matrix, so I can be judged by teachers in the matrix to say that my child is not fitting into the matrix.<br />
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The education system and it's endemic success to reproduce results that are failing our children is a blog for another day.<br />
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This mother's day, and every day, take the time to see and feel the pressure for what it is.<br />
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Not the, 'I neeeeeeed to heal my soul by being elbow deep in creating nutritional goodness. I neeeeddddd/ knead to make bread'. Do more of that. Do <i>more</i> of makes you happy. But recognise the pressure of the 'Holy shit how am I going to get to bed tonight because I just got this "If you're a good Mum you will bake" email and a facebook nudge from the school page. <i>That</i> pressure. It is an illusion, an illusion reinforced by our habit of behaviour. So to break the illusion, rub the sleep from your eyes and wake up. <br />
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Forward this article to your school principal. Be brave and be authentic in naming the bias for what it is. Principals and school administrators are probably asleep themselves and never intentionally wanted you, or them, to be a part of the groundhog nightmare. Give them the gift of waking up. You owe yourself this small gift this mothers day.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Remain up-to-date on the latest fitness programs and nutrition by subscribing to this blog. And remember to LIKE us on facebook for LIVE updates and community feedback https://www.facebook.com/SweatDepot.</div>Erin Cashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00172996965677946478noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-478792890777833601.post-32891376920567793762018-02-21T18:49:00.001-08:002020-02-02T15:38:36.756-08:00Mobile phones are killing our teens, and that is the truth.School teachers don't have the time, nor are they allowed, to go public on this major health epidemic.<br />
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But every time you hand that phone to your child, you are enabling their personal safety demise.<br />
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I guarantee that you gave your child that device on the premise that it was for their 'safety' so that they could call you. Call you if they are in trouble, being abducted, being threatened - need help. But what if I told you that the phone is the reason that they will be targeted in the first place? And when they are targeted the phone will retard any natural survival instincts they may have, and long after an incident, will trigger or compound mental health issues. <br />
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Statistically that phone won't be used to save them, but will enable their demise. The phone makes your child a really good victim.<br />
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I have been teaching self defence and personal safety to high school students for 12 years. What I see in classrooms would make your hair fall out. Our kids are in trouble - mentally, emotionally, socially, intellectually, and physically - and we are enabling it.<br />
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I have seen a degeneration in physical coordination - an inability to know left from right. An inability to hear a direction and react immediately.<br />
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I have seen a degeneration in emotional regulation - outbursts similar to my 4 year olds tantrums. An inability to recognise that they control their emotions.<br />
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I have seen social degeneration. Ok, ok. Socrates himself would bemoan the self-centred ignorance/arrogance of Ancient Greek teens. This is nothing new. But what is new is that the brains of our teens has been deprogramed - reprogrammed - and it is not a program of resilience. Whole sections of our brain die when we become dependant on iOS technology.<br />
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When I was teaching this week most of the students had their phones in plain view. The screens white and blinking, thumbs flicking - regardless of the fact that the school has a 'no phones during class' policy.<br />
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Your child will replicate whatever behaviour they use daily in an uncomfortable situation. For example, your teen girl will giggle during a sexual assault, the same as she will giggle, whisper and eye-roll with her friends when reprimanded for disruptive behaviour. I actually lost a court case when a female sexual assault victim was cross examined and gave evidence that she giggled during the rape. A giggle does not imply consent. We got that? No consent given. But I can't teach the patriarchal judge that this is normal modern female behaviour - instilled the moment a kindergarten teacher claps 'inside voice, outside voices' or 'girls, close your legs,' and 'ladies, don't yell.' I can't re-teach or reach that jury that where predominately male, pale, and stale. That classroom was let out a long time ago.<br />
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But I <i><b>can</b></i> teach your girls to start watching how they unconciously react when they are under stress.<br />
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And it is most likely they will reach for a phone. <br />
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They will reach for the phone the same way that mums have been shown in recent disaster victim studies to clean their kitchen, put on a load of washing or walk around in circles muttering and giggling (or phoning <i>their</i> mum) when being told to evacuate immediately. <br />
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<a href="http://www.abc.net.au/catalyst/stories/3900777.htm">True study, read more here. It made me realise it is my natural reaction to clean and stack. Those fluffy toys are all going to be neat and tidy for the arrival of a cyclone at the expense of my children's survival. This is embarrassing, but true.</a> Self reflection is always going to a vital tool on your personal safety tool belt.<br />
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I was telling a group of grade 11 students <a href="https://www.express.co.uk/news/world/265455/Bear-s-eating-me-girl-told-mum-in-call">the story of a young Russian woman</a> who was fishing with her Dad when they were attacked by a brown bear. It may be observed that the girl's natural reaction when in discomfort was to go to her phone - so while her father's lifeless body was being ripped apart she started making phone calls. The bear - a new mother - may have instinctively assessed the young woman as easy prey and went away to rally her starving cubs. She returned with her brood to find the injured girl in-situ, and on her phone. So the whole nightmarish feast continued all the while with a frantic and helpless Russian mum on the other end of the phone, listening to her daughters agonising demise.<br />
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This is not just a climate change warning about humans encroaching on the animals kingdoms natural habitat and an apex predator trying to feed her starving babies. It is a story of a deterioration in human survival instincts. It is a complete inability to assess risk, react and act - using our body and mind simultaneously to remove ourselves from danger.<br />
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For every second we are on that phone, searching for that phone, or wishing we had that phone, we are food for bears. Figuratively and literally.<br />
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I <i>just</i> finished telling this story when I saw one of the girls playing with her phone. The story made her uncomfortable, so #ironically she turned to her comfort source. Her phone. I gave her a warning. Told her to put the phone away. She<b> sat on it</b> and said "You can't make me."<br />
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I could make her, but the thought of removing a phone covered in bum juice made my choice pretty obvious.<br />
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An hour later we where talking about defence against sexual assault, and that 1 in 3 Australian girls under the age of 16 had already been the victim of sexual assault. This meant that at a hand full of girls in the classroom could have been sexually assaulted already. This may have made my 'phone sitting student' uncomfortable. Or not? So she got her phone out again and started to show her boyfriend something that was uber interesting. In plain view.<br />
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I related to her that while she may not be concerned about her personal safety, statistically the person beside her may already a victim (1 in 6 boys experience sexual abuse before the age of 16), or will be in the future, so don't deny them the right to learn strategies to keep them safe. I told her to put her phone away or leave. So with a great gusto (the most activity I had seen from her all day) she threw her arms in the air and left with a cloud of expletives and statements blaming everyone else for her predicament. "I wasn't even on the phhhoooonnnnnneee!!! Wah!"<br />
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She was like a cocaine addict being denied a hit. Violent. Irrational. Inconsolable. <br />
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This is the result of mobile phone addiction.<br />
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The cycle becomes more vicious when you consider that this girl, when feeling triggered, may then use her phone (as she is hiding in the school dunny) to attack her 'frenemies' on social media. These attacks will lack emotional intelligence, the ability to discern, and most certainly lack empathy. Her brain will be stuck in lizard brain - the brain that attacks, plays dead, and then attacks again. The same brain that trolls and bullies and lashes out. The same brain that blames other people for how they feel. But let's think about the person/people that may be at the end of the attack: they too may have a dependance on their phone, and a lack of emotional resilience. So when they read/ hear/ are confronted by the outburst of a lizard brain this may trigger a defensive reaction within <i>them</i>. Lizard V Lizard. And then <i>they</i> may start to lash out - or - retreat into depression. And we don't need the statistics on teen suicide to see where this is going. The phone has caused a cycle of mental illness, dependance, and aggression, and has enabled countless premature deaths. Are we brave enough to put a number to a death toll?<br />
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Our children are emotionally and mentally addicted to their phones - and as result they are intellectually and emotionally handicapped. It is yet to be seen whether they are going to have the life skills to be able to live independently in our society. Those statistics have already trickled out into our trade industry where only 20 -30% of apprentices complete their qualifications.<br />
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Without boring you too much let's think about a couple of times the phone puts your child at risk:<br />
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<li>crossing the road while talking/ texting on the phone</li>
<li>running with ear buds</li>
<li>texting while driving</li>
<li>'connecting' with groups our individuals that groom your child for sex, or to become involved in terrorism or hate crimes</li>
<li>sexting (this could land them a criminal record as a sex offender)</li>
<li>not hearing/ seeing/ feeling danger</li>
<li>killing off sections of the brain required for basic survival</li>
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So, this is really a no brainer. We don't need governments or schools to do something about this. It is as simple as reassessing the BS that you believe that your child needs a phone in order to be safe.<br />
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Do you hand your child a gun to keep them safe?<br />
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Uh oh....... that's food for another blog.<br />
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We have been believing a lie. It's time to change what is not working.<br />
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Have you ever had a sick day rather than have to deal with a supervisor that has been riding you like a pack mule?<br />
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Or fantasised about holding an imaginary voodoo ritual conducted on a family member who insists it is their birth right to prove your stupidity at every family do?<br />
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How many nights have you lay awake arguing with a phantom work mate?<br />
(If this scenario just took a romantic turn in your head this blog may not be for you.)<br />
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One of the most empowering things I have done in my work/life history was not learning to fire a semi automatic glock (albeit badly), but to get down and dirty with a communication professor to learn <i>true</i> communication terms and how they can impact on our ability to deal with stress. I really had to have a good hard look at my assertion and listening abilities so that I can develop a better way to work and play. And most significantly - the ability to develop strategies to eliminate bullying, domestic violence and war. Yes peeps - the big stuff. But we are the shittest of the shit at communication. Hence, an Australian woman's greatest threat to her life is her current or former partner, and we are teetering on the edge of World War III. <br />
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Maybe people get to the point where they believe, "Man, it's tough, I don't want to have one more thing I have to do... think.... say... I would prefer it just all went away." #ponderingmylifeasarapper<br />
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Maybe this is why people say 'I don't like confrontation', and are supported with knowing nods. And if anyone were to say, 'No, I <i>do</i> like to put it all out on the table,' people take a little step away and look upon said self confessed confronter with a tentative curiosity - wondering where we store this one-eyed, war-scarred unicorn. Is this person dangerous? Or are they useful? (And, how can I use them to my advantage? Hmmmm.)<br />
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But it is our inability to confront people that could be eroding away at our mental health, our family life and our workplace performance.<br />
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Confrontation is one of the most poorly understood terms in the English language. Hollywood has brain washed us to invoke images of strapping on a fully automatic weapon dripping with ammunition and a sweaty head band to make good on a cause. There are connotations of witty verbose, yelling, name calling and courtroom scenes. However, the true, literal definition of confrontation is much more benign and calm. It is almost bland. Confrontation in its purest form is an attempt to bring awareness of a significant gap between a persons actions and their words.<br />
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For example:<br />
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No blood shed, no screaming, crying, streaming snot bubbles. No steely glances, fist pumping or spitting. No one gets sacked, killed, or hot water thrown in their face.<br />
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Just one soul telling another soul that something isn't adding up.<br />
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The words 'I don't like confrontation' becomes an excuse, or a validation, to remain passive. And this is the most simple definition of passive aggressive behaviour. By avoiding confrontation, the very drama the person is claiming they are seeking to avoid is actually being created - but on a different level. A level of avoidance, complacency and a general expression of "I <i>can't</i> - <b>you</b> do it."<br />
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An example of passive aggression may be:<br />
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"I didn't do what I said I would.... because I was sick, tired, busy, busy, busy."<br />
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Hey, don't think I don't see the #irony here. There are only so many balls in the air that we can all juggle before they come crashing down. But in the spirit of learning and teaching better communication I no longer regale people with my lists. Because a communication expert taught me that this is just me being passively aggressive. And she is uber smart. Even when she was shining a light brightly and solidly at my big pimply communication flaws, I still enjoyed the process - and didn't die. I just had to squeeze a bit to get to the core of the matter. (Try and get that image out of your head).<br />
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And more importantly I needed to learn this: Passive aggressive is still being aggressive. <br />
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And I made a decision - that is not how I want to roll (anymore).<br />
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I don't want to be aggressive anymore. <br />
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I don't want that flittering, unhinged feeling anymore. So now, instead of the passive aggressive lists, I apologise and acknowledge my actions, and propose solutions to said inadequacies. <br />
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Likewise, if I see that a person's actions and their words are on two seperate paths I make a judgement call as to whether it needs to be addressed for the sake of my work life, family life and mental health. Once I recognise it, I confront it, and I deal with it. I wash the dishes so I can get an early night.<br />
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I don't need to name call, or blame, or say "You let me down you doe brained fly penis, don't you know how busy I am?"<br />
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That is just plain aggressive.<br />
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I am also more cognisant of 'poor me' statements like "You make me <b>feel</b>... [insert superimposed feelings of guilt, shame, inadequacies here]."<br />
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Nobody makes me <b>feel</b> anything but <b><i>me</i></b>. It is my job to confront it and deal with it.<br />
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And I will also confront a person (my children are definitely not exempt) if they say to me: "You made me...", "You make me feel..."<br />
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Nope, nope, nope. I understand you feel a certain way.... and I am compassionate to that. But they are <i>your</i> feelings. <br />
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I have no control over you, or your feelings. <br />
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But I do have control over my response. And my response can be one of compassion, and one can should never confuse compassion with submission.<br />
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Just like if I saw somebody in pain standing on a bridge contemplating whether to jump, I would not hesitate to confront them. I would not walk away with a subconscious passive belief that it was someone else's job to help them. <br />
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I would say something like this:<br />
"You don't have to do this. Not today. Not here. I will be affected by what you are about to do forever."<br />
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There are only two real emotions - fear and love. We get to choose which one we are going to run with. Which one are you taking out on to the track today?<br />
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This is not click bate, here are eight (8) really important lessons to teach our kids about safety and what to do to prevent child abductions. <a href="http://www.sweatsystems.com.au/erin-cash---the-mother-of-raves-self-defence.html">It and has been applied to real life child snatches that I have investigated, or researched.</a></h4>
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So buckle up and let's get our safety on.<br />
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Tip One: STOP REWARDING YOUR KIDS WITH JUNK FOOD</h3>
Apart from the obvious health concerns, predators will use chips, lollies and ice creams the same way that parents may bribe and reward: as an incentive to do what they want. Be careful with the lessons that you are teaching.<br />
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Tip Two: TEACH YOUR KIDS TO SCREAM AGAIN</h3>
If you hear your child screaming because they are hurt, or being hurt, don't 'shush' them up. Instead address the reason that they are screaming. The scream is their go-to alert system, and instinctual way of facing down fear. Give them sports and activities where this is encouraged. If they don't <b>use it</b>, then they will <b>lose it</b>, and this is not a survival skill that you want to die.<br />
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Tip Three: SECRETS ARE ONLY FOR BIRTHDAYS, NOT BODIES.</h3>
Abusers use threats and intimidation to keep children compliant. Things like, "Don't tell mummy or daddy about our secrets or I will....". The next time you hear yourself say "Shhhh this is a secret..." reinforce the learning that secrets are only for birthdays and Christmas parties, and not for bodies. If a secret feels bad, it is not the kind of secret that you keep.<br />
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Tip Four: EMBARRASSMENT makes good victims.</h3>
If you are embarrassed about your body, bodily functions and sexuality then you are teaching your child the emotional tools that predators will use to to foster their silence. Tools like shame, guilt and fear. If we continue to teach our children these dysfunctional emotions then we are creating a fertile ground for <a href="https://www.communities.qld.gov.au/childsafety/protecting-children/what-child-abuse/child-sexual-abuse">dysfunctional sexual behaviours</a> - whether that means your child will be more likely to be a victim, become a predator: or in fact, both. Learn what are <a href="http://www.nwhn.net.au/admin/file/content101/c6/Br_SexualBehaviours.pdf">normal sexual behaviours of children</a> and <a href="http://www.secasa.com.au/pages/age-appropriate-sexual-behaviour-guide/">what are red flags for abuse</a> so that we don't project our own sexual maturity onto a child's normal development or curiosity. For example: a red flag for abuse or inappropriate exposure is when children pair sexual behaviours with adult framed sexual words. This is now a major concern with children as young as 7 being exposed to online porn.<br />
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Tip Five: THRASH, SHOUT and JUMP about.</h3>
Punching and kicking in a traditional martial arts setting have been proven in U.S. College Studies to slow down victims of sexual assault. There are far more bio-mechanically efficient ways for a child to instinctively and instantly become slippery hurt machines. Big movements like thrashing the head, pumping the arms and stamping the feet. Couple that with an ear shattering yell and your child will no longer be seen as the 'best' victim. A test you always want them to fail at.<br />
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Tip Six: NEVER LEAN INTO A CAR WINDOW - FOR ANY REASON.</h3>
If someone strange pulls up in a car beside your child, teach them to TURN to the rear of the vehicle AND RUN. It will buy your child some time, or hopefully, make them a less attractive target. It is good practice for us all to take leisurely runs and walks on the footpath that faces toward traffic. Then it is obvious if a car is pulling in toward you.<br />
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Tip Seven: GET RID OF THE 'Our Family' STICKERS FROM YOUR CAR.</h3>
Scratch those suckers off right now. Stop advertising what precious cargo is within.<br />
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Tip Seven: THE BOGEYMAN IS A MYTH.</h3>
The reality is that your child will rarely be snatched by the bogeyman that lurks within the recesses of their fears. Your child is most likely to offended against by someone that they know, or has been invited into the family to a position of trust. <br />
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This is most certainly the case when parents estrange and during custody disputes. This is the time that your child is most likely to be abducted: by <i>yourself</i> or your <i>partner</i>.<br />
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It is better to teach children that everyone is human, but sometimes some humans make our tummies feel funny, and this is an early warning system. Talk to your child about trusted humans, and humans that make us feel bad, and give them the time and space to tell you if someone makes them feel bad.<br />
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The greatest gift we can give our children is to be free of <b>fear</b> and brimming with <b>self worth</b>. The child that grasps for love and attention - from anyone, for any attention, whether it be positive or negative - is also the child that becomes the 'good victim'. And the only way to teach your child self love is to practice tolerance and unconditional love for your child - and for <i>all</i> humans. Not just <i>some</i> humans. But <i>all</i> humans.</blockquote>
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No name calling.<br />
No hate.<br />
No fear.<br />
Just <i>Love</i>.</blockquote>
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<b><span style="color: blue;">Your child or teen could be a poster child for a pedophile ring - and you may never know.</span></b></blockquote>
<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3764388/Sick-website-explicit-photos-underage-girls-70-Australian-schools-online-just-ten-days.html" target="_blank">Australia made world news in 2016 with a website trading explicit photos of local school girls. </a> The site even had pages dedicated to local Brisbane and Gold Coast high schools and fan pages - offering money to men who could find more explicit photos of their favourites.<br />
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Attempts to close down the site have been thwarted in a brazen disregard of the law. And these girls, whose images have been used without consent, could be to this day, <i>oblivious</i>.<br />
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Police <b>CANNOT ALWAYS LOCATE YOU</b> if photos of your children have been found to be used in connection with pedophile rings. Due to the ability to mask IP addresses and identities with overseas servers and false identities it is not always possible to link an identity to these photos. There are even sites dedicated to teaching online predators how to cover their tracks.<br />
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<b><span style="color: blue;">A photo of your child could be part of a pedophilia ring that has been uncovered by Police, and you wont even know about it.</span></b></blockquote>
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<a href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/jul/13/shining-a-light-on-the-dark-web-how-the-police-ended-up-running-a-paedophile-site" target="_blank">The Task Force I worked for busts pedophile rings - and makes arrests of pedophiles in our neighbourhood. This article is an insight into what they do, and how close to your home they come to arrest offenders.</a><br />
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A pedophile or predator will not play fair, nor think like the average person. They therefore look at images and their erotic 'potential' differently to how the average population does.<br />
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Here are some things that pedophiles may find attractive when looking at photos on social media:<br />
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<li>The obvious stuff - like children in bathers, underwear, having a bath, or in a state of undress. Even well placed emoticons covering your child's genitals can be photoshopped off and genitals photoshopped back on to increase the 'value' of the photo. You can take me to South Bank beach at Brisbane on any given day and I will be able to point out lone males taking photos of children.... your children. And yes - Police <i>do</i> patrol this and regularly confiscate cameras and phones. I have seen it happen meters away from parents and they are completely and utterly oblivious. The Police do not have to approach the parents, because it is not an element of the offence to have a complainant. Importantly, there is rarely time in these situations to locate and talk to the parents about what has just happened - Police are too busy dealing with the offender.</li>
<li>The less obvious stuff that predators find irresistible: like photos that they can alter to make your child or teen look they are part of a sexual act. These photos can be altered to have a male person in the photo in a state of arousal. Or they can simply overlay a lewd comment so that the photo becomes a pedophile photo 'meme'.</li>
<li>Children of social media celebrities. The more photos posted, and the more coverage the images gain, the more likely they are to come to the attention to pedophile groups and be subjected to their monstrous conversations and attentions. Similar to a teenage crush of a pop star, these photos become a platform for imaginings, fantasies and lewd behaviours. The internet has now allowed predators to openly discuss their fetishes, and because they have the support of their monstrous tribe, they now have a place to 'normalise' and 'strategise' dysfunctional thoughts and fantasies.</li>
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<u>Things to consider when posting photos of your children:</u><br />
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<li>Is there enough room to 'superimpose' another figure into the image?*</li>
<li>Are they in a state of undress (even with emoticons placed modestly - these can be removed and body parts can be photo shopped in).</li>
<li>Do you have a public social media page? Pedophiles can develop 'child crushes' and the child does not have to be posed or in a state of undress for the photo to become a commodity.</li>
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* I used to pray that when I saw a photo of a baby in a nappy and a sexually aroused man in the image that the image was 'superimposed'. I didn't always receive this comfort from the government classifier or the photographic specialists. This is is the horrific reality of child sex crimes and trafficking in the 21st century. There is one photo in particular that I remember which causes me pain daily - a 6 month old in just a nappy with the most beautiful angelic smile laying on a bed - and a naked man entering the babies bedroom. This child looked like my babies - your babies. And the horror that I could not reach through that screen and save that child scratches at my brain. <br />
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<u>Things to be considered with your teens social media images:</u><br />
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<li>Duck faces and posed photos are used as baseline trading images on predator sites.</li>
<li>Swimwear and underwear shots become more valuable.</li>
<li>If their account is public then the predator 'ring' can approach friends (or enemies) of the teen and pay money for more explicit photos.</li>
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It has taken over a decade for me to write this post because I know that I will have re-visted images and situations from my career that haunt me. There was a time when I would physical hit my head and moan to stop the memories - but I hope that I have now developed better coping strategies. I now have a practice of offering it 'up', or surrender. I take the time to do a short meditation where I hand the image and the horror over. This then allows me to focus on the present. If it re-surfaces I repeat... repeat, repeat repeat - just like my rules of self defence. Because to submit is not an option for me - or my children.<br />
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If you have been affected by this article please make an appointment with your GP.<br />
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<a href="https://www.lifeline.org.au/" target="_blank">Or ring lifeline.</a> <a href="https://www.1800respect.org.au/" target="_blank">Or the sexual assault helpline.</a><br />
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<a href="https://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/search?q=sexual+assault" target="_blank">Here are some things you may need to know when reporting sexual abuse.</a><br />
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Australian women die when they try to use their voice.<br />
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We are all guilty of being at a party and watching a violent argument without stepping in. Listening to a neighbour being berated and threatened but we decide not to call police. Because we have all been conditioned by that little Australian voice that says, "it's none of your business... stay out of it.... they are just drunk...".<br />
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Our conditioning starts in the classroom. From the earliest age little girls are repeatedly praised and rewarded for being quiet, conscientious, listening, participating... Little boys are expected to be loud, rambunctious, active. When a boys academic ability naturally kicks in, they receive the academic accolades, and the girls are left with the residual messages of, "you have to be quiet, conscientious, and listen more if you want to receive recognition of this stature again". And so the conditioning is ingrained. It is further ingrained when we look at the traditional sports and recreational differences between girls and boys - girls dance and perform, are graded on perfectly slicked hair buns, silence, weight management and demure outward presence and a pleasant smile. The gentleman run, kick, shout commands, tackle, grunt, throw, defend. Their voice is a mark of their strength. Their leadership.<br />
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Women are taught to make themselves as small as possible... make yourself smaller on that bus seat, lose weight, cross your legs, don't lose your temper. Don't let your daughters get under anyone's feet.<br />
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If I had a penny for every woman who said, "I would like to train with weights, but I don't want to be bulky" I would retire. Because God knows, you don't want to be physically dominate, do you? That would be too much for the world to bare. <br />
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Australians left an indelible mark on the world stage by being the first country, in the world, to be more fixated on the colour of their first female Prime Minister's pubic hair, then her intellectual and political contributions.</blockquote>
And I witnessed educated women joining in on that conversation. I saw the pleasure and venom with which they jeered at her. Like returning to a 1980's school yard and dragging new girl off the popularity perch, so the boys won't take their attention away from the resident preening cool girls.<br />
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I will say no more on that.<br />
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No matter your political background, nothing screams 'insecure' and 'bigoted' more than people using name calling rather than rational intellectual and political argument.<br />
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Which I think our education system fails poorly in cultivating. Who here has done courses on argument, reasoning and critical thinking???? Right. Que crickets here. Teaching people to think for themselves.... mmmmmm..... I wonder what would change if that was the basis of our school curriculum?<br />
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But name calling. Australians are gold medalist in that. <br />
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But it is not my intent to bemoan and gesticulate.<br />
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My intent is this:<br />
Before we as women silence other women with glances, behind hand whispers and social exclusion... could we perhaps teach our daughters there is another way? To teach them that we are all connected, and when united we cannot be hurt. That we will not give away our power by allowing others to hurt us.<br />
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Could we re-learn to use our voices?<br />
Could we question our use of 'outdoor voices' and 'indoor voices' with our children, before social conditioning means that they have forgotten how to use their voice, when they need it the most?<br />
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Could we eradicate shame and guilt, and make these statement sentences a tool on a young girls tool belt that she brings her no embarrassment, only boundaries? Sentences like:<br />
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<li>No stop</li>
<li>I need some help today</li>
<li>I deserve respect</li>
<li>I am your equal</li>
<li>My feelings are valid</li>
<li>I deserve to be heard</li>
<li>Put on a condom</li>
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(Ladies, I teach teen girls that if we aren't mature enough to insist on a condom, then we are not mature enough to have sex).<br />
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It is not enough to stop the hands that beat us down. We as woman must stop with our own judgement, reach out and lift up the voices of ALL woman.<br />
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We all know when our words come from a place of fear, and we know when our words come from that expansive, warm, tingling place of connection and inspiration. Everyday I am working to come back to that, instead of that fearful, spiteful place (I fail quite regularly, but to ere is human).<br />
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When I teach you and your daughters, that is the place I want to open and ignite. And then I watch it catch like wildfire as social conditioning is questioned, and connections and protections are cultivated.<br />
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Be that torch - you are that torch. Don't silence women. Give them a safe place to use their voice, and teach them the difference between words of fear, and words of truth. This is how we shine light into the violent world of darkness.<br />
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How long is a child allowed to outpour anger?<br />
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According to the clinical poineer of palliative care and emotional intelligence, Dr Kubler-Ross:<br />
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That is a flip flop long ding dong time for any parent in the firing line.</div>
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But it is now recognised as on of the greatest failings of Western social conditioning to discipline our children to suppress emotion in favour of social convention. </div>
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Teaching our children healthy outpouring of the natural emotions: fear, anger, grief, jealousy and love - is a sure fire why to raise a healthy, productive generation and short circuit our violence fuelled, emotionally crippled community.</div>
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If we don't teach out children that anger is an ok emotion and it is ok to display it - safely - then we get teens and adults who spontaneously rage. This translates to one punch killings, domestic violence and active shooter massacres.</div>
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<li>Grief becomes depression.</li>
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Could teaching our children to be angry change our poor domestic violence record?</h3>
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We could, quite simply, change the world by teaching our children it is ok to be angry, and show them safe ways to discharge anger.</div>
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The buddhists uphold the same belief - to be childlike is to be god-like.</div>
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So the next time you encounter a moody person, or deal with a tantrum, or find yourself simmering in an unexplained mood... let's ask ourselves how we provide safe havens for the children and people in our lives to outpour emotion (safely). Do we afford ourselves the same safe, judgment free space to allow emotional recognition, and in turn, spiritual growth? Do we acknowledge our anger, or suppress it and push it down into a furness where the pressure is building and seeping out of structural weaknesses? <br />
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Anger is ok... rage is not.</div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">Australians look out for each other. We do not have to yell "FIRE" when we are being raped. Australians will listen - if you know how to get above the industrial noise and complacency that urban living has created in our busy lives. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">And we need to be taught HOW to protect <i>other</i> people, while keeping ourselves safe. This is an easy skill... and should be taught from an early age.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">Mace, pepper spray and guns are illegal to carry in Australia: and like our football, we don't need body armour. The number one reason you should not rely on weapons, alarms, sprays and powders are: they are largely money making gimmicks that feed off fear and insecurity, and if you don't know how to use them correctly, or freeze, or can't find the bloody thing, then you have wasted precious moments trying to retrieve it, and will fall prey to fear. </span></span></span><br />
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Underpinning these rules is the concept of KISS. A dualistic concept that only a female can understand and teach. <a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2016/02/the-concept-of-kissing-in-self-defence.html" target="_blank"> Read more about the concept of KISS here.</a><br />
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But most importantly, I will teach you skills to respond quickly, skills to empower yourself and your family. Check out my book "Empower Yourself" - an interactive online self defence e-book. If you read it - you may never need it... and then, my job is done.<br style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /><br style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;" /><br />
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At the basis of the argument, would be the rationale... 'Does a 15 year old get to decide his fate?"<br />
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2. A father has a right to parent a child?<br />
3. The child has the right to tell one or both parents which parent they prefer to reside (predominately) with?<br />
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Let's look at the behaviours behind these assumptions.<br />
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Would Madonna have taught/ shown her son that he was:<br />
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Madonna may be able to say, yes, she has taught her son some of these realties. Or, maybe we can assume that Rocco has seen his Mum's mega success and what behaviours she uses to take what she wants, when she wants it, because that's how highly motivated people roll. </div>
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She may have taught her son that it is ok to ask for something, even if it hurts someone else's feelings. Or maybe, even despite it. Or maybe, even to <i>hurt</i> someone's feelings.</div>
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Should she go back through time and change anything - HELL NO!!!! That's ridiculous. Children are sent to us as our greatest teachers and our best reflection of the reality that we create around ourselves.</div>
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So before we judge our children's behaviour, or force them into a state of submission or compliance, could it be helpful to see what our children may be seeing and replicating in our lives? Because there is only one person I can change in this world... me. I am the only person who I can control. And that is a fundamental truth. As it should be.</div>
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So, a parent who says, "I have been through so much, I deserve so much better..." will be given the ironic manifestation of a child that grows and says to that parent, "I deserve so much better.... (than you Mum/ Dad.)"</div>
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Is that wrong? No. Nothing is really wrong or right, if we look a the assumptions behind most of the arguments that we have with each other (or with ourselves, in our head).</div>
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So I teach something special at Australian day care centres as a strategy to this defiance - otherwise know as a 'tantrum' in the early education world. If you have a toddler having a meltdown, you have to try this, get down on their level and say, "Yes, this made you angry. Gosh dang it. Stomp and shout. Let it out...."</div>
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Or another great example, "Suzy has the shovel and bucket, and you wanted it! I know how much you were enjoying it. Oh no! You can have a cry, and a shout. That's ok, let it out!"</div>
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No judgement, no lectures on the virtues of sharing to a two year old that has just pee'd their pants, is dehydrated, and wants a hug or a cool fan but doesn't have the words to tell you. Leave those lessons for later when they are dry, cool, hydrated and calm.</div>
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Just sit with them in their defiance.... and watch it all ebb away. Without you being drawn into the drama. Because if we do get drawn in... what does that say about our love of drama? Am I right?</div>
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I honour all the woman in my life with a series of their heartfelt quotes. No hallmark bullshit with this series - because there is nothing photoshopped about being a woman and a mother.<br />
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<span data-offset-key="4mhbb-0-0">There are so many hidden stories here. Background stories of relationship breakdowns; mothers, fathers and children being taken from our lives too soon, escape from violence, working 12 hours a day and struggling to get back to the war-zone that your home has become.... but these are background, invisible stories. See if you can reach behind the heart of these wisdoms and see the experiences that have shaped the words. </span><br />
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<span data-offset-key="4mhbb-0-0">The older I get the more I realise that suffering is grace. The 'poor me, poor life' fist pumping I did in my youth is being smoothed away. Being a woman involves suffering, but grace is the lesson that I continually learn. I wouldn't change a thing. I also love to hear the hidden messages behind every souls words. We are so lucky to peak into the soul of these words:</span><br />
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Jodie (Mrs Murray) a Mum who shows me how to be a real Mum.... </td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><br />When I was exasperated at the exponentially increased workload of holidaying with multiple children Mrs Murray shared her Mum's saying: "ahhhhh, it's all about the shared memories." I can quite honestly say this reassurance has saved me (and my children - and my baby daddy) from toppling over when it all got too much.</span></td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px; text-align: start;">"Know your own heart and mind, always trust your intuition, love fully and courageously, feel your strength deep in your being for it is gentle and powerful. Above all - never, ever give up </span><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px; text-align: start;"></span><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px; text-align: start;"></span><span style="color: black; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">(or lose your sense of humour)" </span><span style="color: black; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Meredith aka Goddess Edwards<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj83SHFZ5TN4ePz7zusRCYR85cXW_qN_gHeQ_glXWK69yhtOW2f4X8h_9DURpyR5J2dJ-X5lDCsLQXsWQVTSWA3qLtrd4HxDonuir6MCY4fNRcX_ROrZ8BLa7TWCYwN__rQSgND37XzJfs/s1600/12787611_880264235440582_1812419601_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="font-family: -webkit-standard; margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj83SHFZ5TN4ePz7zusRCYR85cXW_qN_gHeQ_glXWK69yhtOW2f4X8h_9DURpyR5J2dJ-X5lDCsLQXsWQVTSWA3qLtrd4HxDonuir6MCY4fNRcX_ROrZ8BLa7TWCYwN__rQSgND37XzJfs/s320/12787611_880264235440582_1812419601_o.jpg" width="240" /></a></span></td></tr>
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<span style="text-align: start;">(Having)</span> two daughters, first birth at age 19 second at age 36... both extremely difficult births. Two generations of vast difference at being a mum. But once you're a mum, everything, the whole world changes. You give everything to your kids and go without so they can have everything you didn't have. Love, kindness, friendship and support until the day that you die.</div>
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<span data-offset-key="9cvpm-0-0">I want to live to age 86 because my youngest daughter will be 50 and hopefully by that age she won't miss me too much. I didn't have the love and support from my mother as long as I can remember so when she passed at age 88, two years ago, I didn't feel too sad, isn't that just awful?</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="9en8a-0-0">So what I am trying to say is love your kids and your fur babies... with all of your heart and soul. We brought our kids into this world and we suffer pain, anguish and happiness every day. Our kids hate us from time to time and we quarrel over the dumbest things but then it is all good again. My kids said that I am strict but fair. </span></div>
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I guess I have done the right thing. One is now 43 - a policewoman for 24 years. The other is 26- a RN in a cardiac unit. Both have gone to uni and now the youngest is doing her masters. I made them both get a part-time job when they were 14 1/2 so they could understand the value of me giving them $20 to go to the movies etc. They both soon realised they had to work hard for 3 hours to make that $20. The both have their own properties and money in the bank and have got their shit together.</div>
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<span data-offset-key="3pa8q-0-0">I almost lost my eldest when she was 22 to a massive brain haemorrhage. That was the toughest time of my life. That is when you really feel the knife entering your heart and twisting. Thank God, she made it but I have never been the same since. </span></div>
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Love for your kids is always unconditional, look after them and treat them with respect, kindness and support and they will always be there for you..."</div>
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<span style="line-height: 16px;">Helen Joachim: my 'Mum' when I was in the Police Academy. We were in a squad together. </span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="9nhn0-0-0"><span data-offset-key="a9bhg-2-0" style="font-size: 12px; text-align: left;">Helen was very kind to a very young, very naive, very unfit little girl (me). She introduced me to fitness. Her eldest daughter (in photos above) was a really young police officer that graduated a few years before we did! Yvie suffered a massive brain haemorrhage a couple of months after we got out of the academy. It was a bit of a sliding doors thing for me..... It rocked my world so much I stopped drinking, and started devouring natural therapy theories because I couldn't reconcile that a 22 year old Police woman was in a coma (because of the shift work and lifestyle of Police at that time).</span></span><span style="font-size: 12px; text-align: left;"> </span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="9nhn0-0-0"><span data-offset-key="a9bhg-2-0" style="font-size: 12px; text-align: left;">Here's the freaky bit. Mum (Helen) was with me during our first autopsies at the academy - about a year BEFORE her eldest daughter lapsed into a coma. I remember her gently volunteering to dress a very young girl at the morgue that had died (HERE WE GO) of a brain haemorrhage due to a freak fall. Helen was so gentle, and while us young peanuts where freaking out at touching a dead body, she was graceful and angelic - combing the dead child's hair and arranging the sheets for when her parents would 'view' her. I could feel Helen's heart wrapped protectively around the lifeless girl. This was my first lesson of the boundless love of a mother for ALL children. Helen aka Mum shaped me... profoundly. </span></span></div>
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"Love yourself so that you can love others. Look after yourself so you can look after others."</span><br />
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"As soon as our little people come into the world, your needs/wants become second priority (or third or forth!) & that's ok. You wouldn't have it any other way & it's not even something you consciously do - you just do it because that's what unconditional love looks like. There may not be a reward at the end & there's often not much thanks along the way because that's what unconditional love is. What mums do is usually only noticed when it's not done! The little people we are entrusted with to nurture & grow through life & the unconditional love we show will teach them how important it is to love with no conditions. Being a mother is the hardest job in the world but also by far the most rewarding. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #373e4d; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 12px; text-align: left; white-space: pre-wrap;">My favorite quote that gets me through all sorts of situations is: 'This too shall pass.' Sometimes things seem overwhelming & there might not feel like there's an end to sleepless nights, cleaning up mess you didn't make, troubles with friends, homework, taxi-ing between multiple events.... but there is & it passes. This quote helps me get perspective when things seem way out of control."
Deb 'Muscles' Jeffers</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Karen "Sizzle'' Stevenson - she claims to not be a wordsmith. I think she is a magician.</span></td></tr>
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"BEING A YOUNG PARENT MEANS WE MET A LITTLE EARLY. BUT IT ALSO MEANS I GET TO LOVE YOU A LITTLE LONGER. SOME PEOPLE SAID MY LIFE ENDED WHEN I HAD A BABY, BUT MY LIFE HAD JUST BEGUN. YOU DIDN'T TAKE AWAY FROM MY FUTURE, YOU GAVE ME A NEW ONE."
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"Only worry about what you can control.... Which is pretty much nothing except your attitude. Realise that shit happens, often very literally, don't sweat the small stuff, which is 90% of stuff, then take a deep breath, make like Tay-Tay & Shake it off. Take solace in the fact that far less capable people than you have managed to keep small humans alive, all you need to do is just love the crap out of them and yourself. You've got this mumma."
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<span data-offset-key="4fbq7-0-0">Nicki 'HAB' Zaini - she once said to me, 'when you have babies you see beauty in ALL BABIES....' cause that's how her kind heart rolls.</span></div>
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Thank you for making dress up costumes for a fuller figured dwarf child, coloured popcorn and mending my thumb worn dummy blankets while I was at camp.</div>
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You raised 4 children single-mighty-fistedly from the day that Bear Bum (to my left) was born, and never: drank wine or coffee, had a 'girls weekend', a 'date night', no babysitting, no child support, or custody sharing, or a wee by yourself. Never. Not one single day. And all on the extravagant wage of a casual at Franklins Brookside.</div>
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No respite: except for maybe a sneaky, filthy 'Porkies' VHS you watched with Aunty Dawnie and Mrs Hilton after school drop off. Disgraceful.</div>
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Recently you lost your Mum, my Grandma. And I am sad for you, and a little sorry for myself, because she was one of my favourite people in the world. She loved me when I was unlovable. And I miss her.</div>
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So I write this because I don't want both you and her to go unrecognised - before it's too late. You hang our moons, and you light the stars for your grandchildren (all 4000 million of them). </div>
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Love your second (and now favourite) child, Erin.</div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: blue;">Luke 6:43-44: <i>For no good tree bears bad fruit, nor again does a bad tree bear good fruit; for each tree is known by its own fruit. For figs are not gathered from thorns, nor are grapes picked from a bramble bush.</i></span></span></h4>
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K.I.S.S. could mean Keep It Simple Keep It Sweet (placation)<br />
K.I.S.S. could mean Keep them In cloSe (pull them close, twist their neck).<br />
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For too long male dominated self defence has failed to consider the following options for woman in life threatening sexual assault scenarios:<br />
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1. Doing nothing (at the time). Often in domestic violence situations the option of doing nothing means that you survive the moment, to escape for a lifetime. This is something mothers have instinctively done for human millennia to keep their children safe - often at the expense of their own safety. But this option must not last forever. The next option is to escape, and for family and friends and society to have a safe haven for them to escape too.<br />
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2. Placation. Placation is the ancient art of foxing, and dare I say it - seduction. Don't go all defence balls on me - you have to read this in its entirety. Because it's hard to hear. Just like rape, sodomy and degradation is hard to experience. <br />
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Placation stops the fear centre (the amygdala) that inhibits a survivors creative thought process. Bit hard to be creative when your life is being threatened right? But placation is a skill that can be taught - it opens the brain from the fear centre to access the greater brain. From here people can access the teaching that ALL OFFENDERS are operating from a psychotic brain. A psychotic brain has daydreamed (like a film running in their head) about eliciting fear from a person and enjoys the adrenalin rush and reward hormones that result from acting out their imagined attack.<br />
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Sex is a by product of the fear. In fact, if you have a look at the psychology of hard core sexual offenders you will see that the majority of them do not masterbate. This, according to human behavioural experts, would indicate that they are largely sexually dysfunctional.<br />
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So... this is a little story that I use to reinforce the placation - or K.I.S.S principle - of self defence (names, facts, countries, and clown customers have been changed in order to reinforce the learning).*</div>
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A woman was closing up her dry cleaning shop for the day. A man with a sawn-off shot gun enters. The woman, in shock, believes he wants the takings of the day, but he instead demands sexual acts. He forces the gun into her mouth. The woman instinctively knows she is not going to survive this, and there is only one thing that she <i>can</i> control - she will show him <b>no fear</b>. She looks him in the eye and pretends like she is enjoying the depravity. This action, in turn, derails the show-reel of madness in his head, deflates his aggression (literally), and results in him zipping up his pants and walking out of the shop. Her remarkable resolve leaves him flaccid and her with enough evidence on her person to link him to 52 other victims buried statewide in remote desert locations.</blockquote>
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*If you are like me and you gotta know real life stories then search survivor's: Rose Steward, <span style="background-color: white; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Jennifer Asbenson, and Alison (first name only) the South African throat cut survivor</span>. Their stories are first hand accounts of the superhuman ability to survive.</div>
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So you may need to placate... but you can also Keep them In cloSe in order to use a fundamental rule of self defence.</div>
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Move in close to use momentum (not force) in order to TWIST a weak point (thumb, wrist, neck?) and effect Escape.</div>
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I recently had a young woman ask me how you know if your partner is emotionally abusive.<br />And without even knowing her or her personal circumstances I said, "By asking me that question I can say yes, yes your partner is emotionally abusive."<br />Her face confirmed the truth for <b><i>me</i></b>.<br />The lurch in her gut confirmed the truth for <b><i>her</i></b>.</blockquote>
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And if your gut is roiling now, and the fact you have even entered this forum, means it is probably the case for you too.<br />
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Here are some behaviours that you may not have even considered as being controlling, or abusive, however your gut could be warning you of a different reality:<br />
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1. Turning the heating or air-conditioning up or down in the house or car as a form of 'punishment', and/ or despite the fact you are uncomfortable (control).<br />
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2. Suggestions become negotiations becoming demands that you withdraw from social media .... for your own 'good' or the good of the relationship. (isolation)*<br />
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*I am all for withdrawing from social media, because honestly.... it can trigger rapid mental health deterioration & delusional narcissism like no other modern phenonenum - aside from drugs. But if you are being controlled to get off, and they aren't? Well?<br />
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3. Driving erratically or disobeying traffic rules - knowing that it is upsetting or frightening to you (particularly if children are in the car).<br />
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4. Getting drunk or under the influence and blaming you for their consequential behaviour, or even suggesting that it is your fault for being around them 'because you should know better.'<br />
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5. Most importantly. Any word, behaviour, or action that makes you feel physically ill is your inbuilt alarm system that you are not in a safe place.<br />
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There is only one person who's behaviour you can change. And that is your own. <br />
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A survivor of Domestic Violence once told me a salient truth:<br />
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There is no one action that will keep you safe, but the first way to prioritise your safety is to open your eyes to the truth.<br />
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<span data-offset-key="6hlrh-0-0">But then I thought, no, you freaking fool, no, just ask - just yell.....</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="6hlrh-0-0">"DID SOMEONE JUST STEAL MY BAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!"</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="6hlrh-0-0">The general population of the beach sheepishly looked up, and a few lovely Mums rushed over and said, "A woman in black jeans just ran over and grabbed it, she was looking around so we thought she knew you..."</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;"><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">A woman offered to look after my son because I may have mentioned</span> I was going to hunt the bitch down.... but, I politely declined the well intentioned offer (my son, after all, is irreplaceable).</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">And I ran, with my two year old, up and down the main street until I hailed down the local boys, and gave them the description.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">I asked them if they had the "Find my phone app...." but blank gazes told me, "No."</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">So I gave them my other half's phone number (unanswered due to important biz stuff) and told them to haunt. And I also hunted. Offenders will always run to the left. Almost always. And I was later to find out she did.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">I then ran to the bank with my toddler (in togs) to beg for cards to be cancelled, and begged for drinks of water (it was 35 degrees and climbing).</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">In the mean time, the magic of my smart, muscled, sexy father of child was contacted and launched 'Find my phone.' And he found my phone - metres away from the left hand turn where I had been looking in an industrial bin that had been emptied only hours earlier.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">They then found <i>her</i>. She had used my money for methadone. I never got my money back. But I got my wallet and keys (and baby sleepy love-love toys).</span></div>
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<span style="color: #141823; font-family: "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif;">And now you must benefit from this story.....</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="5fc2l-0-0"><b>DON'T </b>PACK UP YOUR BELONGINGS (keys/ wallet/ phone/ towel) in one ONE BAG.</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="dm1h4-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">1. Leave what valuables you can in your locked glove box.</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="f2bcp-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">2. Put your keys/ phone in a waterproof ziplock bag {there are also safes that you can buy to secret on your car marketed to surfers to stow their keys}.</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="2b6k-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">3. Bring only a small amount of money absolutely needed if you can't walk back to your car - never your wallet. Never.</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="38pn-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">6. Hide/ bury your keys/ phone under sand/ foliage if you are swimming. </span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="7talb-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">7. If there is a nice family nearby, let them know you are going for a swim and ask (very nicely) if they might mind keeping an eye on your stuff - for every arsehole there is out there, there are so many kind, decent people. (Insert heart filled with love here).</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="b0na6-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">8. If you look and see your stuff is missing - don't be embarrassed - yell at the top of your voice "Did someone take my bag????" Grubs have an advantage of you looking around like a dork, thinking you are going crazy. And hey - if you did just misplace it, you got to have a good yell and got rid of some adrenalin. </span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="8ffda-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">9. Remember - people get taken advantage of due to 'embarrassment'. If something is wrong let people know!</span></div>
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<span data-offset-key="20jjf-0-0" style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">10. Minimise risk! Recognise, Assess, Vocalise, Engage or Escape.</span></div>
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I particularly love meeting the shiny smiles of new creators setting up their new shop or gym and snapping up my pre-loved business or gym fit-outs. It's good karma. It's better karma when I connect to their hope and aspirations and give them even more money off their purchase, just because....<br />
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But there is a darker side. There are people who text you in strange hours of the night, ask you what you are wearing - 'what else' you are selling, and, God forbid, start to ask me questions about my children.<br />
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So here are my personal safety tips for things that should be common knowledge:<br />
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1. Do not post your full home address. Business - maybe, but only if you are happy with your security and don't have obvious opening and closing times. <br />
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2. Post your suburb only with "address on application". <br />
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3. Text your address (text, do not email) when you have made a deal, have settled on an approximate pick up date and time, and <u>they have given you their phone number</u>.<br />
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Their phone number is a safety precaution in the worst case scenario. <br />
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So, email something like this. <br />
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"OK. I'll take $10 for my .......... Pick up at 10ish on Saturday is good. What's your phone number and I will text you the address?"<br />
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4. If they have your address and they keep changing times and dates, and your gut is telling you that something is not right, pull out of the deal.<br />
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Text something like this, "My other half and I don't feel good about this anymore. We are not going ahead with this. Thank you for your time."<br />
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Did you see what I did there? Implied that I have other big, important, adult person in my life that is aware of the buyers phone number, the deal, and have my back in case they try something nasty.<br />
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5. Use very plain, very direct language in your text messages and emails. If they do not do the same, pull out. Mental health deterioration is easier to see in written communication, rather then phone conversations.<br />
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6. If at any stage, the buyer asks personal questions and your hackles go up (or if your friends have ever suggested to you that you are a bad judge of character, and your hackles never go up) PULL OUT. Your gut is King. Your head is often wrong and misleading, but your gut is King. And if anyone gets personal about your children and your daily activities GET OUT OF THAT CONVERSATION. <br />
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7. If a buyer has your address and is not leaving you alone and is getting threatening, consider notifying your local police station or Police Link (not 000, most people know how I feel about that).<br />
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8. If your 'big, important person' (real, or imagined) is not home during buyer pick-up, consider just letting your neighbour know that the transaction is about to take place and keep an eye out over the fence. Consider even setting up a code system with neighbours, something like "We have to organise how we are getting to the game on Friday night..." means, this person is a psychopath, please call the police and check on the children. This code system is also excellent during domestic estrangement, so neighbours have your code for when child visitations may be going pear shaped.<br />
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9. Never tell people that you are going to be at work, holidaying, or are away from your home for extended periods: this is an invitation for criminal open house. It is perfectly polite to say, "This time doesn't work for me.... these times do.....".<br />
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10. Remember. It is JUST money. JUST. In realty the exchange of money is just the exchange of energy - go in with positive energy and hope that you get delivered the same. Ten fold. But if the energy doesn't feel good, then you must look after yourself - and, most definitely, your children.<br />
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So go make somebody's dreams come true by cleaning out the clutter of a dream you once lived, and moved on from.<br />
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Just remember some of my cool tips and personal safety tricks... cause hey, that's my job...<br />
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I cannot begin to heal your pain, but I want to give you
some practical advice to take away some of the trauma of reporting of something
that has happened to you in the past.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It
may have been 30 years ago, or a month…. But it will be defined as a
‘historical’ sexual assault when there may no longer be any physical evidence
that can be gathered by police.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Physical
evidence includes medical evidence collected shortly after the incident, clothing worn (and not
washed), photos of injuries, DNA collected from the body and under the
fingernails.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Anything from which the
offender’s DNA might have been transferred to prove their physical proximity to
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This then changes the nature of the investigation, but not the
outcome in court.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So please don’t worry
about this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Save your energy for
healing, ok?<o:p></o:p><br />
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I am all about supporting you as a survivor, and taking you
away from the negative connotations of being a victim.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><a href="http://www.sweatsystems.com.au/bio-erin-cash.html" target="_blank">Let my experience as a former sexual assault investigator help you.</a><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I may not know
everything, but I want to give you a place to start.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because I have found everyone is too busy
being ‘PC’ and stepping on eggshells that they are ignoring your need for real
advice and practical guidance.<o:p></o:p><br />
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So take a deep breath, and let’s get started.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Book in a time of day, get a babysitter, find a room, a
coffee shop, a library private reading room.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Write down or audio record your experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t leave out your feelings… record sight,
sound, smell.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Include EVERYTHING,
uncensored and unabashed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Write like no
one will every read or hear it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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After this process then consider what investigators need to
know… and consider whether reporting is a process you wish to pursue.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your relationship to the offender.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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You must never feel guilt if you knew and loved your
offender.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Never.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is a misconception that you had to hate
your offender and that the offences committed against you where traumatic.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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I have also taken reports when offenders have spoken of
‘love’ and ‘going on a date’ while the offences was being committed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Just because what happened to you wasn’t a common storyline
that you watch on a TV crime scene show or Hollywood blockbuster does not mean
it is not an offence.<o:p></o:p></div>
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And I must also reiterate, that a child in Australia is legally not capable of giving consent to sexual acts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is irrelevant whether you told the
offender to stop or not.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Guilt and judgement are wasted emotions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Please do not let this effect the ability for
you to report the incident as it happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Please do not leave out any details because you fear that it will affect
the validity of your experience.<br />
<br />
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;">2. Not all sexual assaults leave physical scarring.</span></b><br />
<br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;">The vagina or rectum does not have to be torn, bleeding or bruised to prove rape. It is a real option <i>not to resist </i>when you are fearful of the offender (or in the case of multiple offenders). </span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Time, date, place.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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Recalling the time, date, place is paramount to determine your AGE AT THE TIME OF THE INCIDENT.<br />
<br />
At least 1 in 3 sexual assaults occur during childhood.<br />
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Let me make this perfectly clear in the most basic English.<br />
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If you are under the age of 16 - if you are 15 years or younger - in Queensland, NSW, Victoria or the Northern Territory <b>you cannot consent to sex</b>. Any sexual act is an offence. This age rises to 18 in Adelaide and the Northern Territory, and in Adelaide even older if the person is an adult and in a position of authority; like a priest or teacher.<br />
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<li><span style="color: #444444; font-family: "helvetica"; font-size: 10pt;">17% of women and 4% of men experienced sexual assault since the age of 15 <a href="http://www.casa.org.au/casa_pdf.php?document=statistics" target="_blank">(Australian Bureau of Statistics -Personal Safety Survey, 2012</a>) </span></li>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">US statistic</td></tr>
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<ul style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: "Noto Sans", sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 1.6 !important; list-style: inherit; margin: 15px 30px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; width: 616px;">
<li style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant-caps: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 2px 10px; vertical-align: baseline;"><a href="https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens" target="_blank">Females ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.</a></li>
</ul>
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Looking at these statistics it is no surprise that reporting is often recalling an incidence that happened in
childhood or adolescence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> This is when at least 1 in 3 sexual assaults occur. </span><br />
<br />
It is not
uncommon for these assaults to go unreported until the victim is aged 30 years or older (just look at the #metoo campaign).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is a neurological fact that
at around the age of 30 you come into a matured emotional intelligence that comprehends past trauma.</div>
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<blockquote class="tr_bq">
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">I distinctly remember
hanging out clothes when I was about 30 and recalling an incident that happened
to me when I was 16, and thinking, ‘WOW, that guy would be arrested now if I
reported him.”</span></b><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span></span>I had been a Police Officer for 10
years by that time, had studied for my detectives appointment, arrested
numerous paedophiles and sexual offenders, and had never once looked back on my
own adolescence and recounted one of my own experiences as a criminal law
offence. This, coupled with the (unnecessary) emotions of shame and guilt further compound the amnesia state that a teen or young person will experience after a a non-consenstual sexual experience (i.e.: rape).<o:p></o:p></div>
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Such is the nature of our intricate and amazing brains and
it’s ability to compartmentalise trauma.<o:p></o:p></div>
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How to recall time, date, place OF EVERY INCIDENT you wish
to report is the key to making this process easier. Particularly if you where a
child and had limited ability to correlate times, ages and places.<o:p></o:p></div>
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How do you do this?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Do you remember a special event that happened shortly before
or after the incident?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Birthdays,
Christmas, Easter, summer holidays?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Was it a regular occurrence that happened during a
particular time of day?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How do you
remember?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What images spring to mind
that remind you?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What were other people
doing at the time?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">4.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Where you under the influence of drugs or
alcohol at the time?</span></b><o:p></o:p></div>
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This is not to weaken your case, but the reverse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It may account for why you can, or can’t,
remember certain things.<o:p></o:p></div>
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How much did you have to drink?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What where you drinking?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What sort of drugs did you take?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How did you take it?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How much?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Over what time period?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Where you
also on prescription drugs at the time (very important to consider the effects
of drugs taken together).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How did it
affect you?<o:p></o:p></div>
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I must also reiterate, depending on the State in Australia
where the offence was committed, <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">a person cannot consent to
certain sexual acts if they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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This is a vital fact investigators need, both for the
investigation but also the possible cross-examination that may occur if the
incident was to go to trial.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">5.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What did the offender say to you?<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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If the offender spoke to you before, during, or after the
incident, what did they say?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The best
way to write it is like this:<o:p></o:p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
He said, “Would you like some cake?”<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I said, “No, thank you.... sugar is bad for the tummy.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">6.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What level of penetration occurred.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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Whether we are talking about a penis, a finger, or an object,
it is vital to explain the level of penetration that occurred. </div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
Use correct terminology:</div>
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<o:p></o:p></div>
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<ul>
<li><span style="text-indent: -18pt;">Vagina</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "symbol"; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt;"> </span></span><span style="text-indent: -18pt;">Labia</span></li>
<li><span style="text-indent: -18pt;">Anus</span></li>
<li><span style="text-indent: -18pt;">Penis</span></li>
<li><span style="text-indent: -18pt;">Testicles</span></li>
</ul>
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No one died because I wrote that did I?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Everyone will live.</div>
<blockquote class="tr_bq">
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">The only thing that dies
when we use the term <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">penis</i> and <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">vagina</i> is injustice and sexual
dysfunction.</span></b></blockquote>
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I know it makes people squeamish… but I believe that if we
were all a bit more open minded about sex, then this unnecessary shame would
not be an issue.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
No shame, ok…..<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>let
me be that little voice that reminds you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>No shame. No guilt.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">7. Consent</span></b><br />
<br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;">'No' means 'No'.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: 19px;">What:</span><br />
<ul>
<li><span style="font-size: 19px;">words </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 19px;">actions </span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-size: 19px;">did you use to tell/ show the person that you did not want their actions to continue.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: 19px;">There is a difference between a bad sexual experience, or a sexual experience that you regret, as opposed to proving </span><b style="font-size: 19px;"><i>beyond reasonable doubt</i></b><span style="font-size: 19px;"> to a jury of 12 people that your words and actions showed that no consent was given.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: 19px;">I will reiterate once again, if you were legally incapable of giving consent at the time, for example under the age of 16, or affected by drugs or alcohol to the extent that you are losing consciousness, you are unable to give consent. <b>Consent is not a factor. </b></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 19px;"><br /></span>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">8.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Have you told someone about what happened to
you?<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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Who, when, how and what happened as a result of the
conversation is vital to forming a big picture of the incident.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Did you write anything down? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Did you have a diary (whether you wrote about
it specifically or not, the entries and dates around the time of the incident
could paint a very important physiological picture)? Draw pictures, paint?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What relevance did it have to your situation
and the incident?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Remembering special events, places and details – no matter
how trivial they may seem to you – can help investigators to paint a greater
picture.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You may never understand the
relevance, but investigators have many tools that they use to build a case.</div>
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Your head will be spinning by now, so I will give you some
space to breath and sit with this information.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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There are only two pure emotions in this world: love and
fear.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Anyone who has ever come in
contact with you has only ever acted out of one (or both) of these emotions.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I write this from a place of pure love, and a need to
surround you with it and whisk away any fear.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No matter what, please believe you are a
human BEING, not a human DOING.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>BE well,
BE safe, BE WHOLE.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t let anyone take
that from you, OK?<o:p></o:p><br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq">
<o:p> </o:p><i><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #1c1c1c; font-family: "helvetica"; font-size: 14.0pt;">‘And
as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to
do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.’ </span></i><i><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #1c1c1c; font-family: "helvetica"; font-size: 14.0pt;">Marianne
Williamson</span></i></blockquote>
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Umami paste. I cannot bang on enough about how this can change your cooking, increase good fats and minerals, and just make your taste buds sing. It's been a long time since I have eaten out and thought that the meal was better then what I could cook at home, and it is all about this...</div>
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Fry chopped onions and garlic and bacon (optional) in a good oil.<br />
Mill/ crush toasted walnuts and parmesan cheese together.<br />
Smash a can of tinned tomatoes into your fry pan.<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;"><br />Add your nuts and cheese crust (reserve some to coat a white fish or salmon for an oven baked fish dinner).<br />Stir in 4-6 anchovy fillets.<br />Crush up 2-4 sheets of nori (sushi) sheets over the pan and mix.<br />Add Himalayan salt and pepper to taste.<br />Splash in some coconut aminos or balsamic vinegar.<br />Simmer until the flavours have combined and the smell changes from good to really unbelievable. </span></div>
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Add to any sauce, casserole, pizza base, homemade focaccia - like WHATEVER... to make it taste sensational (in half the cooking time).</div>
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The only way I can make this better is by perhaps frying in some shiitakes and/ or a wild mushroom mix.</div>
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No, I won't give you measurements. Measurements are an excuse for why you won't cook because you don't have the right ingrediants. And my caveman Grandma didn't have a measuring cup. She had one eyebrow and a twig.</div>
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If you want it to last longer (it won't, it tastes too good) add more salt and aminos/ vinegar. </div>
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<span style="caret-color: rgb(28, 30, 33); color: #1c1e21; font-family: inherit; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">I don't do meal plans, but I can tell you what my food day looks like.</span>It is a little bit like a plastic surgeon doing rhinoplasty... over the phone... and you holding the scalpel - for me to do a meal plan for you. I can't physical force food in your mouth, to train hard or to sleep properly. I don't know how really bad your gut is because I haven't seen the state of your scat, or felt you bloat, indigestion or constipation. I can't feel how your body feels, or physically inhabit your body to see if you are REALLY training as hard as you say you are. One day, my son assures me, he will develop an 'app' and I will indeed be able to inhabit your body. And it will be a game changer. And cost you a lot of money. <br />
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But until then, here is what I can advise you to do. It's nothing new. I am just replacing most of my meat and diary with plant based alternatives these days. It is my shout out to the environment, sentient beings and my gut health. After all, I am too gutless to butcher myself, so why expect someone else to do the dirty work for me?<br />
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Here we go. Upon rising:<br />
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<a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2012/03/poo-taboo-pooing-for-health-and-self.html" target="_blank">Your should need to poo. If you don't, your system is most likely inefficient. You should do as many poos in a day (and equivalent volume) as main meals.</a><br />
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<a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2012/09/add-12-challenge-add-rather-then-avoid.html" target="_blank">I then drink aloe gel in filtered water.</a><br />
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I eat oats* and chia seeds soaked and cooked in full cream milk*. I add nuts, cranberries, coconut, fresh or home stewed fruit and add a dash of maple syrup.<br />
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*[Insert diary or grain substitutes here that make you feel good.]<br />
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I drink a cup of green tea or I drink a coffee with full cream milk. As soon as possible, for everyone's sake. As soon as I stop having babies/ toddlers/ children I will probably eradicate this from my diet.<br />
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LUNCH:<br />
I eat left overs from the previous night with some sort of oil rich homemade sauce i.e.: hummus, aioli, Tunisian green sauce (coriander, chilli, onion, garlic, olive oil wazzed up). I have it with a good plateful of raw salad greens. I usually also add full fat white cheese and/ or yoghurt. If I am training that day I will eat it with sour dough, on a barley warp. I also add saucraut for my gut, and if I have made kumbucha tea I have a little shot. This meal is a huge as a huge main meal. <br />
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I drink more green tea.<br />
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I have usually had a least litre of water by this stage.<br />
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Afternoon tea (before class, I don't need the calories if I am not training my arse off):<br />
I eat the vegetables I am cutting up for tea (preparing my gut with enzymes only raw veggies contain... If your gut isn't healthy this will make you bloated). I sometimes eat a slice of sour dough with avo/ tomato heaps of butter and even homemade jam if I feel like my body is eating itself. If you have never experienced the feeling of your body 'eating itself' then you have never truly experienced hunger.<br />
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When I don't have a child hanging off me, I might have a smoothie whizzled from fruit and veg reclaimed from the depths of the vegetable crisper, cleaned (sometimes soaked in apple cider vinegar) and frozen, and add a teaspoon or two of 'plant seed protein' and full fat greek yoghurt.<br />
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Dinner (which is also used for lunch tomorrow) is always with 4-8 different vegetables. Almost always. No exceptions.<br />
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I always add spinach and grated sweet potato to sauces, bolagnaise and curries for fibre and vitamins.<br />
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Portions are generally 80% vegetable, loads of fats and the remaining is protein and some seeds and wholegrain. Not rocket science, otherwise we never would have evolved as a race.<br />
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WINTER suggestions:<br />
Slow cooked meats and ribs.<br />
I roast my vegetables in pork or beef fat.<br />
Green vegetables fried in coconut amino acids.<br />
Hot roasted whole sweet potato.<br />
Soups.<br />
Dahl.<br />
Baked eggs.<br />
Curries.<br />
Paella.<br />
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SUMMER:<br />
Meats and salad.<br />
Lasagna with left over vege, spinach and ricotta. <br />
Bolognaise.<br />
BBQ'd Haloumi and vegetables.<br />
Fish coated in pesto.<br />
Frittata.<br />
Roasts meats.<br />
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After dinner: a piece of seasonal fruit, sometimes. If I have been a good girl at training in winter I eat a homemade baked pastry: whole fruit oven baked on a shard of shortcrust party with butter and maple syrup. Like, probably, once or twice a fortnight.<br />
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Non-specific supplements: 2-3 relate magnesium; 1 zinc, 1 neem, 1 Ubiquinol (for over 40's).<br />
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Things I know make me fat (and uglier):<br />
1. <a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2013/10/the-truth-about-alcohol-in-your-diet.html" target="_blank">Drinking alcohol.</a> Wine. Beer. Premixed Candidida Cocktails.<br />
2. Drinking soft drinks, milk drinks - in fact any liquid that isn't water or green tea.<br />
3. Eating sugar.<br />
4. Eating white flour. I do it... but I usually make myself pay for it in the gym when I feel like spewing and have snot streaming out of my nose.<br />
5. Drinking more than one coffee a day. In fact. That is probably too much.<br />
6. Doing drugs. Legal, prescription, illicit, or over the counter. Anything that isn't saving your life is killing you. If you see me taking Panadol you know that Arma-Erin-Gedden is coming.<br />
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<a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2014/06/my-top-10-prophecies-on-rise-and-fall.html" target="_blank">I'm not into gimmicks, or short cuts.</a> In fact I have <span style="background-color: white; color: #252525; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px;">prophemi</span> the doom of loads of things that are mainstream for the last 10 years.<br />
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I will never make people believe that they need me as an emotional crutch. All learning is re-membering people. You can do it.... remember. Re-member. What makes you feel good? What makes you heal?<br />
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This great big Celestine world will give you every answer if you ask the right question. I am just the start.<br />
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There is NO GREATER EXPERT THAN YOU.... So go to it. Trust yourself. I dare you...<br />
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Remain up-to-date on the latest fitness programs and nutrition by subscribing to this blog. And remember to LIKE us on facebook for LIVE updates and community feedback https://www.facebook.com/SweatDepot.</div>Erin Cashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00172996965677946478noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-478792890777833601.post-37880011424380102162014-10-30T21:18:00.001-07:002016-09-14T21:18:20.791-07:00The Paleo Bride: Why I don’t need to get married <br />
When I facilitated at a school self defence program recently, and delivered the monstrous facts that an Australian woman was more likely to be killed at the hands of her violent (male) partner than by terrorism, a 14 year old girl quipped, “So are you saying we shouldn’t get married?” Queue the crickets chirping here…. <br />
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Prior to this loaded question I had remonstrated about Walt Disney Princesses. Think about it ladies, all Princess pre-1990 were rescued by a Prince…. Who woke her from a poison induced coma in acts that would be described under the Criminal Code as ‘sexual assault’ or ‘indecent acts’ because consent could <i>clearly</i> not be given.<br />
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Insert caveat here: I have been out with “the Beast” and tried to be Belle (but not as pretty) and could not change him with love. I have a small foot, but Prince Charming never came…. and what does message does that send to my sistas from other mistas with a larger foot?<br />
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But now I do have a partner of 16 years…. Not a fairy tale, but a meeting of two minds and hearts. And two separate bank accounts…. Because, golly gingo, wouldn’t I be a hypocrite if I espoused to young girls how to be independent, and give beaten women skills for leaving domestic violence if I couldn’t access money for a bus for me and my children if things got bad. <br />
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Luckily I don’t worry these days about fleeing with my bus money, because after numerous failed attempts I chose a man that respects women… and even if he gets sick of me and goes for a younger, less opinionated version, I will never live in fear that he would hurt me or my children. That to me is the entire fairy tale rewritten with a real happy ending. I will never die at the hands of my life partner and nor will my children.<br />
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And it is with this that I try to stop myself from going down that emotional ‘rabbit hole’ as I know the truth that one woman every week will take her last breath struggling against the man that is there ‘for better or worse… in good times and bad’. The perpetrators most common modus operandi is to strangle his partner so she will "just shut up". <br />
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In fact my most important message in <a href="http://www.sweatsystems.com.au/" target="_blank">self defence is how to protect your airway</a>.....<br />
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Am I about to shut up? Hell no.<br />
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Am I against marriage? Hell no! I LOOVVVEEE a good wedding, they are good for the soul, for celebration and for affirming spirituality (in those that dream more of spiritual freedom than the perfect dress and cake). I have been a bridesmaid five times - and counting.<br />
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Love to me is spiritual freedom, not crying, and distrust, panic and anxiety… and social media posts convincing the world (and the woman) that everything is honky dory over at this cosy insta-groomed little love nest. <br />
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But these are the facts about marriage. The ancient world had no word for marriage. Ancient Egypt only had a word for “de-facto” or “life-partner”. It was not until we ditched our nomadic ways (here we go Cross Fitters… here is my point…..) and started eating all those farmed grains and herding stock that women were used as collateral… Yes…. That’s right. Like a property package. ‘You take her, I give you this land.’ Grunt. Grunt. Agreed. Pack your things Snow White and lay back while me spread my omnipotent seed. <br />
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Marriage had NOTHING to do with romantic love, and everything to do with control, power and the domination of religion, class and race.<br />
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It is really only in the last century that the concept of 'romance' and 'love' been coupled with the concept of marriage (thank you Hollywood).<br />
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Marriage is, statistically, the greatest institutional failure in social and economic history. Half of all marriages fail, and with every subsequent marriage the chances of success diminish proportionately. Compare that to Australian small business statistics - one third of businesses fail before three years. It costs about $20 000 for a small start up. It costs over $30 000 for a wedding in an Australian Capital city. If you were a rational thinker you would unequivocally start a small business over marriage. <br />
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I once have a friend quip to me: "Getting divorced is like going bankrupt, it takes about five years to recover."<br />
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Here are some of what the great minds, celebrities and spiritual leaders think about marriage:<br />
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<b><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. Socrates</span> </b></blockquote>
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<b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Marriage is neither heaven nor hell, it is simply purgatory. Abraham Lincoln</span> </b></blockquote>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><b>Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. Jane Austen</b></span></blockquote>
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<b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Love is moral even without legal marriage, but marriage is immoral without love. Ellen Key</span> </b></blockquote>
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<b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Marriage is a great institution. Elizabeth Taylor</span> </b></blockquote>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><b>Marriage is good for those who are afraid to sleep alone at night. St. Jerome</b></span></blockquote>
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Marriage has been linked by physiologists as a hot bed of symbiotic mental dysfunction with societal sanctioning of narcism (think weddings) and co-dependancies (think joint bank accounts and the woman relinquishing their surname).<br />
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Marriage is the message that you are not complete until you enter into the institution. It is a sign post to our children that to be whole you must be married. It compounds the stigma of single parents and single adults... that they are unsuccessful, unfulfilled and subject to pity and discrimination.<br />
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Am I a feminist. Yes. Do I hate men? Um, no. I’ve worked with more men than most women have had pairs of shoes (in ten lifetimes). AND LOOOVVVEDDD IT. And no, haters, I didn’t sleep with them. Maybe I wasn’t pretty enough, but that was never an issue for me. One of my less then fabulous boyfriends did give me the best advice I had ever been given, “Never look down when you walk into a room of men, look them in the eye.” And one of my most respected Sergeants also gave me the same advice. Every business meeting I have ever walked into I think of them and those words. <br />
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So. Now I’m calling copy-write on the term “Paleo Bride”. It’s mine. I vow to be true to myself first, to honour and obey only myself. Because love is kind, it is not cruel or conceited. And if you can’t be with the one you love, then love the one you’re with (i.e.: YOU…. Not that random homeless person sitting on the park bench reading over your shoulder while you read this). <br />
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And, for practicality, while all my degrees and qualifications and businesses and companies are in the name I was born with, I reserve the right to keep a little bit of myself all to me. My partner and my kids get the rest. It’s unconditional. No daily Instagram’s, Facebook posts, or Tweets will ever replace me walking into the room and giving them my time. Sans selfies. <br />
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In the mean time I will continue to suggest to 14 year old school girls that it’s not marriage that they should be questioning, it is their perception of themselves. The “I am” - independent of the clothes, money, social media and opinion of others. Independent of the boyfriend, girlfriends and their approval (or disapproval). <br />
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Because in every life threatening situation the first three seconds will determine whether you will live or die. And us old ladies know that Prince Charming does not have the skill to teleport, so there is only one person who is going to save you - you. And the sooner we teach our youth this fundamental truth, the sooner we can address Australia's unforgivable track record of domestic and alcohol fuelled violence.<br />
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Rant over…. Go, be strong, live long and prosper without the need for others approval and with only love in your heart. Because if we all lived like this I would not need to teach young girls how to keep themselves alive, and young men to restrain the hands that kill.<br />
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<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">OK. Eczema sucks. When skin is your largest organ it is also a bulletin board warning for underlying health issues. I have a family riddled with auto-immune disorders so I write from experience. It it tears at the heart of my ego because it is painful AND ugly. Both things I can’t live with.</span></div>
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<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">During a bad bout have a bath in bi-carb soda and/ or magnesium sulphate (epsom salts).</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Don't use soaps. Use this: get a stocking, pack the toe with wholemeal oats till it is palm size, tie the end and cut... The little soap sockette goes goopy in the shower and the soft, goey white paste is soooootthhhing and natural and full of healing proteins. You've got 24 hour use from the time you first wet it.</span></li>
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<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Moisturise immediately after bathing or washing hands. I use 100% natural oils. Olive oil in winter. Coconut oil in summer. I believe oils are seasonal like foods.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Use a bee wax based healing product on the out-break. I cannot go past <a href="http://www.iherb.com/Medicine-Mama-s-Sweet-Bee-Magic-All-In-One-Healing-Skin-Cream-4-oz/42529" target="_blank">Magic Mama's all natural BEE MAGIC healing cream</a>. Buy it from <a href="http://www.iherb.com/" target="_blank">iHerb</a> uber cheap and use this code <strong style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial; line-height: 19px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">JHN213 </strong>to get 10% off. </span></li>
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<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Introduce good bacteria to address gut imbalances i.e.: sauerkraut, kumbucha tea, home made stock, apple cider vinegar, aloe gel.</span></li>
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<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Paleo diets</b> in their extreme will pale and putrefy. Whole food groups should not be eliminated from your diet unless you are allergic to them. You should not be eating a side of beef and a kilo of bacon a day. You need carbs to think people… or your body will convert muscle to glucose. Which defies the premise of Paleo. Full stop.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Protein powders</b> will be linked to bowel cancer. Protein in this form was not meant to be guzzled like this. Your liver <i>hates</i> it. Enough said.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Goat meat , hemp and aloe vera farming will be the way of the future. </b> Goat meat - so good for you, so delicious, so drought hardy, so muc</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">h less farting and so sustainable. </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Aloe vera should replace most preservatives in creams, shampoos and beauty products… and we should be drinking it by the gallon for our tums and bums… And hello, what Queensland garden can’t grow it?</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">And hemp… for rope; sustainable inflammable, cyclone graded building materials; AND AS A FOOD!</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">For fear of repeating myself… What Queensland garden can’t grow it?</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Ayurvedic medicine and diet will be embraced.</b> Because, golly gosh, 5,000 years of knowledge might just have some relevance??? And if you hit me with your western medicine superiority complex may I remind you that while saxons where shitting in ditches and eating our dead families hearts and eyes for their healing abilities the Asian population were innovating architecture, plumbing, self-carbonated glass bottles, astronomy, medicine, writing implements, paper, metal chemistry, warfare and a system of government.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Not one single diet in HISTORY has worked, and we will come to terms with it. </b> This is not a new concept. Universities have been discovering that since the advent of diets in the 60’s that we are becoming fatter with every diet we try. Have a look at why Weight Watches is so successful as a business. Read their success stats after 2 years, please!!!!! You have to fail in order to keep their business churning over your hard earned cash.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Meal replacement drinks will never work. </b> Your mouth and mind wants to chew: in fact reliance on meal replacement drinks have been linked to OCD’s such as eating hair, nails, skin and SAND! And if they HAVE worked for you in the past remember this: losing weight can also mean losing muscle. Of course you are going to lose weight if you are only consuming 90 calories a day! DUH!</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Social media ‘home experts’ telling you what to eat, how to train, what to think, will find their toned bottoms losing their family homes in court.</b> Because, like tax, you claim whatever you want, but you have to back it up in court. And it just takes one daughter dying with an eating disorder, and an irate mum on a legal mission to bring well meaning, meme swinging, selfie taking, self appointed experts down.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Cross fit will flame bright, fizzle and dizzle.</b> For loads of reasons (perhaps notable rhabdomyolysis & reoccurring shoulder dislocations), but fundamentally it is not sustainable - <b><i>for the bodies of the general population</i></b>. In a litigious society the courts will soon prevail on whether box’s have addressed their duty of care for addressing individual safety of practitioners (i.e. WOD = ‘Wads Of Documents' that can prove on the balance of probabilities that one workout does not suit all). </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">This is further highlighted by the fact that CrossFit is undisputedly the hardest fitness movement to insure - most boxes are uninsured or the more prodigious ones have developed their own underwriting with solicitors. It is also on the outer with “Fitness Bodies” aka Fitness Professional Monopolies that accredit and oversee fitness professionals in Australia while laughing all the way to the bank at the expense of cash poor PT’s. They do not like not having a piece of the CrossFit pie! Now, before you get up my ribs I LOVE THE CULT OF CROSSFIT. I love that it has brought strength training to Mums and Dads in the burbs… But like Nostradamus predicting the World Wars I tell you only the horrors I see in my visions. Let history test my prophecy.</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Helvetica; margin: 0px 0px 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><b>Bakeries as will be as popular as a good quality, hole in the wall expresso house.</b> Gluten-free diets will be as attractive as g-string leotards when we realise it’s the way we have let Woolworths and Coles serve us nutritionally dangerous bread and pasta that has made us sick! Move over ‘Bean Hunter’ and hello ‘Bake Hunter’ as we search for the perfect in-house whole grain milled flours (spelt, kumult, hemp, rye), generational mother yeasts and award winning chai, oats, pine nut, sesame, and pepitas artfully mixed with our favourite veggies, fruits, whey and cheeses.</span></li>
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So I have done up some uber quick tips to soothe the tired eyes and souls on my dear hearts. Please utilise the comments section if you wish me to clarify anything at all.<br />
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MY MOST IMPORTANT POINT IS THIS: Create a sleep pattern - just like you do for a baby or toddler. Create routine, relaxation and activities conducive to resting the mind to trigger sleep. Hah hah hah hah.... I'm sorry, I can't stop laughing! I currently wear my baby like a brooch because all my sleep training just went to poop and I haven't slept in two weeks. Hah hah hah!!!! But, seriously, we are adults, so get serious with your sleep.<br />
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So go slip into something fluffy, and let's get dozy....<br />
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PRIOR TO / DURING YOUR SHIFT:<br />
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1. Don't drink energy drinks. Ever. No matter how tired you are at work. They are poison... like smoking. Speaking of which why is it that that our night working nurses with their tucked in angel-wings are such big smokers? Is it because they just want to take a break to breathe? <a href="http://sweatdepot.blogspot.com.au/2013/10/i-shouldnt-even-need-to-talk-about.html" target="_blank">That's food (or fresh air, healthy lungs, and not dying on a respirator) for thought.</a> Exercise before work or pump out some squats and push ups during your shift instead... this will give you the (healthy) buzz you need and release some of that shitty cortisol stress hormone as well.<br />
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2. Get a low voltage aroma-burner and throw in some lavender oil and water just before you go to work. Or sprinkle lavender on pillows and bed clothes.<br />
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3. No Facebook/ TV/ instragram / twitter./ fluorescent lights/ exercise 2 hours before bed. It will fluff with your REM and stop melatonin production for a lovely vampiric state. Put your phone outside your room on silent. Break the addiction people! Read a book or write in a journal instead. Journal writing before bed is now the number one therapy being used for P.T.S.D. It gives your rational brain the chance to download, giving your subconscious permission to do the dance of the seven sleepy veils.<br />
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4. Take Chelated Magnesium (2-4 tablets depending on how much you train/ how constipated/ how bad your restless legs are) at about 4-5am in the morning. It works. I am not wrong.<br />
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HOME TIME:<br />
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5. Get home safely without crashing the car by listening to loud music and making blue tooth phone calls. Wear SUNGLASSES to protect you from telling the brain it wants to be awake.<br />
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6. Draw the blackout blinds to activate melatonin. I can always tell a young night workers house by the use of al-foil on the bedroom windows. Tacky, but effective... I personally would prefer a trip to Spotlight and a fight with a cordless drill (hah hah hah.... laughing again because I know nothing about drills).<br />
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7. Have a cup of herbal tea. Put a bottle of water beside your bed. Dehydration will be the reason you feel like you have a hang-over when you wake up.<br />
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8. Eat a bowl of oats with crushed walnuts. Complex carbs are the key to good sleep and healing broken hearts.... seriously. Protein will stop you waking up hungry. Don't argue with me about this either...<br />
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9. Have a shower that includes exfoliation and straight leg stretches finished with a coconut oil moisturise and calf rub. Yes, you can do all of this while standing/ bending over in the shower. It's marvellous for restless legs... the number one reason people go insane while trying to get to sleep.<br />
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10. Use a pedestal fan. Even in winter. It is awesome white noise and it stops restless legs (that's a great tip for pregnant ladies too). Don't know why.... it just does. And avoid air-conditioning (or only have it on a timer) because it will dry out your sinuses and you will pay for that beginners mistake. Air conditioning also makes you fat.<br />
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PLUS.... keep your poos in order with fermented foods and <a href="http://The poo taboo – pooing for health and self defence" target="_blank">this post</a>. Pooing and sleeping should ALWAYS be regular, painless and a pleasure.<br />
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And should you go to sleep during the day on your last shift? I almost always did. The days I didn't always ended BADLY. And with alcohol. My QPS Field Training Officer (Garry Sweet... yes, seriously, that was his name) gave me sage night work sleep advice: You lost that sleep, you need to catch it up. Don't give up a day. By the end of my career I would sleep a solid 8-12 hour day. But I always felt like I was heading to a funeral at 10pm and would dream of sleeping in gutters as I was driving around during the night because NIGHT WORK IS FREAKING SOUL DESTROYING. <br />
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We are lucky we have you working for us. Thank you. There is a special place in heaven for night workers... fragrant with lavender oil, goose down pillows and dark, quiet, children-free rooms. God bless you all.<br />
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